How Inner Child Work Can Transform Your Relationships & Life | Tammy Cox

In this powerful episode of Soul-led Creative Women, I sit down with transformational coach Tammy Cox, whose work is centered around inner child healing and relationship transformation. Tammy shares her deeply personal journey of overcoming childhood trauma and how it ultimately led her to support other women in breaking free from emotional wounds, rewiring limiting beliefs, and fostering healthy, fulfilling relationships.

LISTEN to the Audio Version:

WATCH the Video Version:

SCAN to Listen on a Mobile Device:

Access the Episode TRANSCRIPT:
_{(click on the 'Transcript' tab)}

VIEW TRANSCRIPT

Summary:

Tammy's story is one of resilience, self-discovery, and deep healing. She reminds us that the past doesn’t define us—but the beliefs we carry from it do. And if we want to cultivate healthier, more fulfilling relationships, the first step is always turning inward.

Here are some of the most profound takeaways from our conversation:

1. The Catalyst for Change: How Motherhood Sparked Tammy’s Healing Journey

Tammy’s healing journey began when she became a wife and mother. Like many of us, she believed that leaving the past behind meant it wouldn’t affect her future. But once she started building a family, she found herself deeply triggered—not by anything new, but by the old wounds and patterns resurfacing from her childhood.

She realized that if she didn’t confront her past, she might unconsciously pass the same emotional wounds onto her children. That realization became her turning point. Instead of pushing the pain away, she committed to facing it head-on—breaking generational cycles and healing not just for herself, but for her child

Reflection: Have you noticed any old patterns from your childhood resurfacing in your relationships today?

2. The Link Between Childhood Trauma & Relationship Struggles

Many of us don’t make the immediate connection between childhood trauma and our struggles in love, friendships, or even self-worth. But according to Tammy, the emotional imprints we develop in early life create the foundation for how we relate to others.

For example, if you grew up in a home where love felt conditional, you may unconsciously attract partners who reinforce that belief—leading to unhealthy relationship dynamics, fears of abandonment, or struggles with emotional intimacy.

The key to changing this? Looking at the themes and patterns in your relationships and tracing them back to their roots. Once you uncover the original wound, you can begin healing at the source, rather than just dealing with symptoms on the surface.

Reflection: What themes keep repeating in your relationships? (e.g., attracting unavailable partners, struggling with trust, fearing rejection)

3. The Power of Subconscious Beliefs: How They Shape Your Life

Tammy explains that our core identity is formed in the first five years of life. During this time, we absorb beliefs—both positive and negative—based on our experiences, our caregivers, and the world around us. These beliefs become the foundation of our self-worth, our fears, and how we show up in relationships.

If a child repeatedly experiences criticism, rejection, or emotional neglect, they may internalize beliefs like:
❌ I’m not good enough
❌ I have to earn love
❌ I can’t trust people

These unconscious scripts continue running in the background well into adulthood—until we consciously choose to rewrite the

Reflection: What are some recurring negative thoughts you have about yourself? Where might they have originated?

5. Creativity as a Pathway to Healing & Self-Connection

Tammy believes that creativity is an essential tool for healing. Whether through art, writing, music, or movement, creative expression helps us reconnect with ourselves and process emotions in a non-linear, intuitive way.

Tammy shares that our natural state is to be creative—yet we live in a world that keeps us too busy, too distracted, and too disconnected to tap into that part of ourselves. But when we prioritize creative expression, we create space for clarity, joy, and deeper self-awareness.

Reflection: What creative activity makes you feel most connected to yourself? How can you incorporate more of it into your life?

6. Practical Tools to Rewrite Limiting Beliefs & Cultivate Self-Connection

If you want to transform your relationships, Tammy suggests starting with inner reflection and self-awareness. Here are some powerful self-inquiry questions to help shift old beliefs:

🔹 What would I have to believe about myself to attract the love I desire?
🔹 What belief is currently blocking me from receiving healthy, fulfilling relationships?
🔹 What do I need to forgive myself for?
🔹 What does my inner child need to hear from me right now?

Healing begins with awareness. Once we recognise the beliefs and patterns that hold us back, we can start choosing differently—one moment at a time.

Final Thoughts: The Journey Back to Yourself

Tammy’s story is a beautiful reminder that healing is a journey, not a destination. No matter how much we’ve been through, we have the power to rewrite our story, reclaim our identity, and create relationships that reflect our deepest truth.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in cycles of unhealthy relationships, self-doubt, or emotional wounds, know that healing is possible. And it all starts with reconnecting to yourself.

^{Tammy Cox
Tammy is a dedicated Trauma Healing Specialist with a passion for helping women transform their lives and relationships. With a unique focus on inner child healing, Tammy uncovers the root causes of relationship breakdowns, guiding her clients on a deeply transformative journey toward rekindling emotional connection and love.}

^{Tammy's personal life journey was marked by significant childhood wounds, bringing her to a crossroads where she faced two choices: surrender to despair or embark on a path of healing. She chose the latter, committing to an inspiring voyage of self-discovery and personal growth, which shaped her into the transformational coach she is today.}

^{Website: Visit Tammy's Linktr.ee
Your Next Step: Listen to Tammy's Podcast - Behind the Veil
Tammy Cox on Social Media: Facebook | Instagram  | YouTube}